tell me what you do to calm yourself/???
After my ablation in 1987, I became severely depressed. When I was told Resort's personnel insurer, Hartford would no longer insure me, I was devastated! I had an awesome therapist! I returned to college to work on a Master's degrees, but still in the insurance world, I was uninsurable! I realized my life as I knew it was over! One day I met a blind man and realized my life was nothing compared to the hurdles he had to contend with. I deeply admired his life's outlook! We were together for 21 years until he died from lung cancer in 2014. I believe God sent him to me to teach me the lesson I needed to learn about life, its meaning of it, and for me to realize what is important in life and what is irrelevant! It was a lesson well learned. Behind every face there is a story, and that is what makes us unique. I learned to focus less on my desires and ambitions and look to the future for learning so much more about the good and bad that life has to offer and to hope that I can make good decisions and accept whatever I will have to deal with! My best wishes to all who have to deal with what life presents us! Try to stay healthy physically and mentally!
Take it one day at a time... walk daily .... eat better !
I focus on breathing. I also find walking helps me calm down as I love the outdoors.
I know that I have anxiety . . . social anxiety. I think I have had it long before the heart attacks. The actually heart attacks and the blood-thinning meds simply add more stress, physically to the anxiety. As long as I am home and no strangers visiting me, I am okay!
Even when I am out amongst a crowd, I am still okay. My problem is when I am directly confronted by a stranger, or a group that is up close in my personal space, I sweat, a lot! My whole body appears to switch to flight mode (Heart palpitations increase)and I find myself inhaling and exhaling for more air. My heart pump appears to go into overload. I am aware of this nervousness and usually have a bottle of water and a face towel handy at all times (especially in meetings). I usually go from being totally quiet or I start talking, a mile a minute . . . nonstop.
This is when my anxiety turns into STRESS. I try to head off situations that will trigger my anxiety by simply saying NO, and not participate, yet it is almost impossible to head off stress once you leave the house. It appears to be waiting for you while traveling, shopping, visiting the doctors, dentist, etc. etc.
My best way of handling stress is to use created thoughts to help calm my mind and bring me back to reality. Each time I find myself in situations that I can't handle I use these thoughts to change my thought patterns which are usually brought on by anxiety. This helps me to maintain until I am back in a comfort zone.